My husband has a court order to see his daughter no less than one weekend a month - we agreed to this only because we had a court order for two weekends per month and we were only getting one anyway and we wanted to avoid the stress of court.
So....we last saw Kali in September for what amounts to 1 1/2 days, before that August for 1 1/2 days. We've seen her 3 days in six months.
For some unknown reason his ex won't let Kali return my husbands phone messages. Is she even receiving them? It's been 8 years of this for us - Kali is 9. Will it ever end?
How is it for the other parents out there?
So....we last saw Kali in September for what amounts to 1 1/2 days, before that August for 1 1/2 days. We've seen her 3 days in six months.
For some unknown reason his ex won't let Kali return my husbands phone messages. Is she even receiving them? It's been 8 years of this for us - Kali is 9. Will it ever end?
How is it for the other parents out there?
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Re: When did you last see your kids?
Fri, December 8, 2006 - 8:34 AMGenerally speaking, I rarely get to see my daughter .
I *should* have joint custody but had to leave the country for awhile and my daughter's mother seized the opportunity to screw me out of custody .
She married a guy who is horribly insecure with himself and she won't speak to me at all and worse yet, has been on a long-term campaign to spread lies to anyone who she thinks might know me in public as well as my second wife .
I challenged this after awhile in court and it was decided that daughter's mom and I both would have to have psychological evaluations done before anything was done .
Mine said I was fine and definetly worthy of having my joint custody restored .
She ignored this and ignored the suggestion that she and I undergo "co-parenting" counseling to thaw the ice that has developed between us since about 4 years ago .
She clearly manipulates my daughter's mind to put a less than favorable opinion/view in her mind of me . When I do see my daughter, it is clear that this is happening and it's disgusting and infuriating obviously ...
I don't have the money to challenge her in court at the moment but I only hope she will WAKE UP and realize at last what she is doing and has done to my daughter and her rights to BOTH parents without hindrance/supervised visits and all of that nonsense ...
I could go ON AND ONNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN about her/this but i'll stop here because I feel my blood starting to boil ...
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Re: When did you last see your kids?
Fri, December 8, 2006 - 11:22 AMYou sound a lot like my husband. Everything gets compartmentalized and then when you start talking about it so many things come up and it's sickening.
What is with these mothers? Are they so insecure that they worry their child will want to live with the other parent? Or are they just control freaks? When do you think the kids will question their mom's actions? -
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Re: When did you last see your kids?
Sun, December 10, 2006 - 12:48 PMMy ex's husband is the control freak in the equation ...
He can't stand that I was with her before he was and i'm sure he can't stand to think that my daughter is not his etcetra ...
The ex is pregnant right now with another child ... should be interesting to see what happens after they both get that hard reality check whence the kid pops out and they're in 'Eraserhead' land (go rent/see that movie if you haven't ..)
Yes I think my daughter is questioning it already but not being listened to, much until she's old enough to really launch a revolt ...
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Re: When did you last see your kids?
Sun, December 10, 2006 - 3:55 PMThat's the part that has me worried - "the revolt". I'm hoping it will actually happen but I can't predict what the teen years will bring for her when she's been actively worked on (brainwashed) from such a young age. I just try to have faith that she's got enough of her dad in her and that it will start to come out when she's eleven or so...
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Re: When did you last see your kids?
Tue, December 12, 2006 - 1:48 AMI have a different perspective. I have custody of my son and his mother gets limited, supervised visits.
I fought long and hard for this arrangement. We went to court several times. Finally, the judge granted a good arrangement for the safety of my son.
Since I like this order, I follow it to the letter, so that his mom doesn't have any reason to bring this back before the judge.
Your husband might want to simply file "contempt of court" charges if his ex is not following the order. The courts can help enforce this. Sometimes the police will help too. In Oregon it is seperate crime to not allow visitation as ordered by the judge.
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Re: When did you last see your kids?
Fri, April 6, 2007 - 10:24 AMI have a very nice arrangement with my ex. I have joint custody but he lives with her. I can see him as often as I can but they live in AZ and I'm CA and with the amount of money I send her for alimony and child support I rarely have much extra to spare. so in reality I see him for one weekend a month and I've had him over every major holiday for no less then 4 days at a stretch. I just wish they lived closer so I could afford to see him more often.
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Re: When did you last see your kids?
Fri, April 27, 2007 - 4:13 PM9 years. Do I win knowledge of where my son is? No? How about the ability to have my ex arrested for contempt of court? -
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Re: When did you last see your kids?
Fri, April 27, 2007 - 4:15 PMArrested for contempt? In our dreams.
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